3 Truths to Help on those Difficult Parenting Days

Have you ever felt unsure in your parenting?  Have you ever doubted a decision or struggled with giving a consequence?   Today is one of those days for me! 

If like me, you are lacking confidence as a mother, I want you to know you are not alone.  As I was driving home from a disagreement with my son, this thought entered my head:

  • Being a mom is tough.
  • Being a mom of teenagers is tougher.
  • Being a single mom of teenagers is the toughest.

Parenting is the most rewarding job and the most challenging job all at the same time.

When we hit those challenges, those bumps in the road, let me offer you three truths that I had to remind myself today.

1. God handpicked you to be the mother of your children.

Of all the people in the world to be their mom, God chose you.  He knows your similarities and differences, yet He paired you together.  He knows what triggers you and frustrates them and still thinks you make a great fit. If you are doubting yourself, remember that God chose you to be their mom. 

2. God gives you His strength when you are tired and weak.

Being a mom can be tiring.  Do I hear an Amen?  In my season of raising teenagers, I feel the most tired when I need to follow through on a consequence. If I am completely honest, sometimes I want to give in just to keep the peace.  But when I think about my goal to raise responsible and respectful kids, sometimes my best yes is to stay the course.  If you are feeling alone, remember God is strengthening you.

3. God offers you His wisdom when you ask and pray for help.

Prayer is so important in parenting. I don’t know how many times I have prayed for wisdom and help when I am unsure of what to do.  God is always faithful and gives me answers whether through a friend’s wise counsel, bringing to memory something I recently learned, or a scripture verse.   My hope is that together as mom, we will see an increase in our prayer life as we raise our kids. 

Being a kid today is so different than we were kids.   Technology at their fingertips, they are growing up with different challenges than we ever had to face.  Putting ourselves in their shoes and trying to see life from their perspective is truly a gift that we can give them. 

God, please help all the moms who are struggling today.  Give us wisdom and discernment on how to parent our kids.  Help us offer empathy and understanding as we truly listen to our kids’ perspective.  Remind us how You have handpicked each of us for the special and important role as mom.   In Jesus name’ Amen. 

Hope for the Weary

I was completely exhausted. Collapsing into bed at night, I started to wonder if I was doing more than what God had called me to do.  Maybe you can relate.

What if God doesn’t want us to DO more for Him, but instead desires us to BE still in His Presence.

This relationship between doing and being is so important.   Many times, I get the order wrong. Maybe you do too.  We get so excited about the calling on our lives that we want to do great things for God before we actually spend time being with God.   Instead of reading His Word and talking to Him through prayer first, we dive right into accomplishing what we know He has placed on our heart.  Maybe this is why we are so tired. 

We need to BE with God before we can go DO great things for God. 

Last Friday, I had the privilege of attending a Propel event with Christine Caine.  She encouraged us to “stop striving and start sitting”.  She shared the importance of first taking a seat in rest with God and then He will allow us to stand, walk, and run in our ministry.   Sadly, some of us are burning out because we are trying to run and walk in our callings before we have sat and filled up with our time with Christ.

I love this verse, Isaiah 40: 31.  My sister made me this wooden sign, and it hangs in my kitchen as a daily reminder to me to completely trust and rely on God’s strength.  Honestly, this is the key to “running and not growing weary; walking and not growing faint.” 

Do you want to complete the call on your life? Do you want to live out your purpose? It is not about striving more or doing more.  It is not even about mustering up more of your own strength. 

Instead, it is about being in the Word of God.  It is about being still and waiting for God’s lead.  It is about fully relying on God’s strength and perfect timing. 

Friends, I love that God has placed a God-sized dream on your heart!  I am thrilled that you are living out His purpose in your life.  My prayer for both you and me is that we will remember the importance of daily being with God FIRST so through His strength and His power, we can fulfill the callings on our life.  Like Isaiah 40:31, we can soar on wings like eagles.  Friends, I cannot wait to see you SOAR!

Love, Jodi